Translation of "mate" into Swahili

If the topic of my first marriage comes up, how can I handle the subject in a way that reassures and dignifies my current mate?

Rafiki zangu wanapoanza kuzungumzia ndoa yangu ya kwanza, ninawezaje kutumia busara ili kumheshimu mwenzi wangu wa sasa na kumwonyesha ninampenda?

Of course, marriage mates may need to give each other a little time to cool down.

Bila shaka, huenda mume au mke akahitaji kumpa mwenzi wake muda kidogo wa kutulia.